It seems like everyone knows a story about false allegations during child custody and divorce. One party points the finger at the other and receives a restraining order from the court believing that by doing so will, almost by default, give them custody of the children and exclusive use of the family home. The accused party then must defend themselves in court and prove these allegations false.
While false accusations are a legal mess, it is also terrible to have someone who you once shared a life make claims of either abuse or neglect. It is something no one is ever really prepared for. You may feel you should reach out to your soon to be ex-spouse, but this can actually make things worse for you. Additionally, trying to make contact could be used against you. It is not unheard of for there to be accusations of stalking, harassment, or violence when all you want to do is smooth things over. No matter how tempted, it is best to keep away, and, with a clear mind, take more appropriate actions. [Read more…]